DIVORCE MEDIATION With escalating legal costs and the limitations placed on most families, the cost of protracted litigation is something that should be avoided. Further, the emotional toll can be diminished, if the persons who have filed for divorce, or, who are going to file for divorce, agree to mediate those things that they deem to be differences. The goal of mediation in matters of Family Law is to look beyond the immediate position of the spouses and look to the deeper interests and concerns that each may have and which may not be fully understood by the other. While divorce mediation sounds like new idea, it is not. However, it is increasingly being more widely accepted, since much of the litigation cost of a nasty divorce can be diminished. Mediation means different things to different people. Mediation can also be used prior to the actions associated with the filing of the divorce. With the mediator's help, working through all the issues necessary in order to resolve disparate positions, can aid in gaining more efficient and more effective results when going through the divorce. Mediation is flexible and confidential. For those with children, it may be the way to settle the conflict between you, and in a certain way that helps you to work together as parents after your divorce.